“Busy” has been the mantra of our culture for awhile now (in fact, I wrote about this same exact topic a couple years ago). We sometimes wear it like a badge of honor, sometimes use it as an excuse. It’s become almost as common place as “um”; just a filler word, losing all meaning. It’s the new “I’m doing good” when someone asks how we are.

Over the past few months, I’ve been working reeeeeeally hard to stop staying “I’m busy.”

I don’t like it, and what it’s come to mean for me. I hear myself say it because it’s a true statement, but as the words slip out, it becomes a complaint, a sigh of exhaustion, even when I don’t feel those things. And because of that, it seems to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I speak, therefore I am.

We live in an increasingly distractible world. 

We are bombarded with ideas, possibilities, products, people, situations, events – both important and meaningless – from the time we wake up and jump straight to the smartphone to the time we zone out with our apps before bed.

It creates a busyness of the mind, constantly taking in new info and never having the chance to “defrag” the data we don’t need.

Is this why we run around in chaos? Because our minds our cluttered?

We create our lives by what we think. Thoughts create emotions create actions/reactions. Through time and consistency with any one thought, we create or reinforce patterns from which we then live.

You guys know me. Two of the tools in my forever toolbox will be the power of nature and the power of the spoken word. Oils and affirmations, y’all. 😉

The mind is a powerful tool, especially when you unlock it with aromatherapy

And so here are my favorites to help you change the way you look at your world, think about your days, and structure your time according to your own vision of your life.

Oils first (in no particular order…after the first two lol):

  • Bergamot – It’s the oil of self-acceptance, and you know I always want women to start there.
  • Wild Orange (duh) – This is the “oil of abundance”, it softens our thoughts around what is/isn’t possible and stimulates new creative pathways. Diffuse this one on the regular.
  • Arise (blend) – This one fascinates me. It calms the nervous system while stimulating the limbic system. It’s the perfect balance between grounded and awake.
  • Sandalwood – This has been one of the most powerful oils I’ve used to calm an overactive mind. Use this one topically on the base of the neck and the forehead (the worrying area of your brain).
  • Patchouli – The love/hate oil. It helps you slooooooooooow your restless body down, sink in, and be still with yourself.
  • Basil – The oil of renewal, overwhelm, the reset button. It also supports the adrenals, which are likely on full capacity with life right now. Dilute and massage over the adrenals with some Wild Orange for support.
  • Ylang Ylang – Using this one at night before bed helps you get a better “defrag” of your day and wake up more refreshed.
  • Spikenard – I always describe this oil as a shield against what pushes against you, and a sword for what straight up attacks. Apply this one like you would Sandalwood, or diffuse with any of your favorites.
  • Wintergreen – To help you let it all go. Use this one over the areas of your body you’re holding the tension.
  • My Emotional Sponginess blend – This one is all about the boundaries. ‘Nuff said.

All of these oils can be added to your diffuser every morning. If you have a commute, use them while you drive. Dilute according to your skin type and needs, and apply them topically as well (careful of UV exposure and citrus oils though). And EXPERIMENT. Find what you’re drawn to, and play with how it makes you feel.

Important: As you’re using them, be sure to inhale the aroma and repeat the affirmation you experience most strongly.

The affirmations:

  • I am comfortable with who I am and what I am capable of.
  • I am enough, no matter what I accomplish.
  • Pockets of time keep opening up for me.
  • I have more than enough time for myself, my goals, and others.
  • I establish and honor my boundaries easily.
  • I use my time with wisdom and intuition.
  • I place the most important things in my life first and allow all else to fill the spaces in between.
  • Time is my friend.
  • Time is on my side.
  • I have plenty of time.
  • I can flow through my day with ease, knowing the right things will get done.
  • It is easy for me to let go of what doesn’t serve me.
  • It is easy and safe for me to say “no” to opportunities.
  • Others support me and offer their help freely.
  • I am living a full, but easy life.
  • My days flow smoothly from one activity to the next.
  • I always create and have time for myself and my needs.
  • Every day I do more and more in less and less time.
  • I am consistent in organizing my time and my tasks accordingly.
  • I’m surprised how good I am at managing my time each day.
  • I embrace the tasks within my zone of genius and find creative ways to get the rest done.
  • I handle changes to my day with confidence and assurance.
  • It is safe to slow down.
  • It is safe to take my time.
  • It is safe to do less.
  • It is safe to do things differently.
  • It is safe to ask for help.
  • It is safe to unplug.
  • It is safe to take care of my needs.
  • I am in the right place, at the right time, for the right reasons.

I recommend personalizing these to your situations, as well. For instance, “I have plenty of time” can become “I have plenty of time to…[fill in the blank].”

These may or may not work immediately. But I’m not saying you should repeat them for some magical effects.

I’m saying you should repeat them to begin to change the way you feel about yourself, your abilities, and the day in front of you. 

Because how you feel dictates how you act, which impacts how well things go. And what you think dictates what you look for in the world around you, which influences the opportunities you catch or miss.

Regardless of what’s happening around you, attempting to start with what’s happening within will give you the foundation you need to handle it.


Are you curious about the emotional side of essential oils?

I have a brand new webinar happening this week, Calming the Cray-Cray: Essential Oils and Techniques to Manage the Stress, Grief, Overwhelm, and Family Triggers of the Holiday Season.

The focus of the webinar is on surviving the many emotional faces of the holidays. Here’s what we’re covering:

  • How essential oils actually work with the limbic system…really
  • Tools to help you stop the emotional spiraling
  • Ways to change your knee-jerk reactions
  • Coaching strategies you can implement right away to change the way you feel
  • Which essential oils to have on hand to support you through the season (emotionally and physically)

There will be giveaways, and bonuses, and time for Q&A.

Click here to learn more.